i keep harping on this point because it feels frustrating to me: i can and will routinely make something like mayonnaise/bearnaise/holladaise for a nice breakfast, i'll spend an afternoon making pasta, or a whole day (or more) preparing some makhni or daal or birria. these are valorized as perhaps extreme, but like, totally normal activities—it's normal to make a fancy weekend meal, and even if people aren't expected to do this, it's not beyond the pale to routinely spend a day cooking some elaborate food for the week or whatever.